3 Bad Dating Ideas
Wow, ketemu article bagus nih. Sumber : Here dari Lindsey Lee, Keputusan yang terbaik dalam hidupmu adalah menerima Yesus dan memilih Teman Hidup namun selain itu juga memutuskan Hubungan yang buruk, berikut beberapa yang harus dihindari sebelum memiliki hubungan:
It’s been a big year for me. I got married in 2016! Saying
“yes” to my husband’s proposal is one of the best decisions I’ve ever
made. Before I ever met him, though, I had to make another “best
decision”—that of breaking up with someone else. Yes, breaking up can be
one of the best decisions of your life.
As I think back over the relationship mistakes I’ve made, I’m eager
to share what I’ve learned over the years with other single ladies. So
when it comes to dating, here are three bad ideas.
1. It’s a bad idea to date someone you can’t respect highly.
He might think you’re incredible and he may be comfortable to hang
out with, but neither of those matter in the long-term without a
foundation of respect. A healthy marriage is a relationship between
people who consider each other equal in value. If you find yourself in a
relationship where you’re constantly struggling to respect the guy
you’re with—but you do respect other people in your life—that
could be a cue that the issue is with him, not you. Ask yourself some
hard questions like:
- How does he treat his parents? His coworkers? His boss?
- If you’re already dating, do serious conversations with him often leave you in tears?
- Do you feel trapped, sad, and frightened when you imagine yourself married to this man as he currently is?
- Does your boyfriend’s Bible knowledge visibly impact his life?
- Is he the kind of man you’d trust to be a godly example for your kids?
- Does he help you become a stronger woman?
- Do you love his relationship with Jesus and admire the way he lives out his convictions?
- Is your life all-around better because he’s in it?
If a guy’s behavior scares you now, listen to your sound judgment and walk away.
While some girls do struggle with respect even when they’re with a
good man, lack of respect could be a God-built internal warning sign
that the guy you’re with lacks respectable character. That was my story.
In my case, respect came naturally once I met a man whose heart was
deeply captured by Jesus.
2. It’s a bad idea to continue dating someone just because you’re emotionally attached.
I know you’ve heard a lot about guarding your heart. Plenty of posts have been written to try to help people stay away from heartache. Sometimes, though, choosing heartache is the best thing you can do.
It’s going to hurt when you walk away from any deep relationship,
even an unhealthy one. You may feel lonely, and you’ll likely miss the
guy. You may start to minimize the character flaws that made you leave
him in the first place. Don’t mistake your pain as evidence of making a
wrong decision.
As someone who narrowly avoided becoming engaged to a toxic man, I
can confidently tell you that the short-term pain of a breakup is just
that: short. Breakups are hard, but I can’t help think how much more painful it would be to wake up every day next to someone unworthy of my trust.
3. It’s a bad idea to date someone because you think he might be your “last chance.”
I’m embarrassed to admit it, but after saying “no” over and over, I started to wonder if my expectations really were too
high. I told myself to be realistic, so I grit my teeth (literally!)
and tried my very hardest to be content in a relationship that wasn’t a
good fit.
Why? Not because I thought he was a godly catch. I temporarily
settled because he was crazy about me, and I figured I probably wouldn’t
meet someone who liked me that much again. Talk about not knowing my value as God’s image-bearer!
Let me tell you firsthand that a guy might kiss the ground you walk
on, but being adored will still leave you feeling empty when that’s all
he has to offer. Trying to settle only made me miserable in the end, and
I had to end the relationship. Dating someone because you’re afraid
that he’s your last chance at love is a disaster waiting to happen.
Dating someone because you’re afraid that he’s your last chance at love is a disaster waiting to happen.
My husband adores me far more (and is far more romantic!) than anyone
else who came before him, but that isn’t all. Jesus is his greatest
love. He inspires me, encourages me, and sharpens my faith. I’m more
effective for our joint mission in the proclamation of the gospel
because he’s in my life. If I’d settled for the first guy who simply had
stars in his eyes when he looked at me, I never would have met the
incredible, godly man I’m married to now.
Even if I’d never met my husband, I’m convinced that it’s better to
be single than married to a man who holds you back from the joyful,
passionate, God-centered life you were made for. The exciting life God
made me for didn’t start when I met my husband. It re-started as soon as
I stopped dating out of the fear that some guy would be my
“last chance” at love. That’s when I started trusting God again, and
that’s when God really started to show up again in my life in amazing
ways.
Can you think of any additional bad dating ideas to add to the list? Tell me about them in a comment below.
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